How many of you enter into the gym without a clear goal? Are you simply doing work for the sake of doing work? Just because you do the work does not mean you are adapting. If you've trained with me and your work set required 5 reps, you are expected to perform each rep to the best of your ability. Rep one should look just as great as rep 5. This requires a lot of focus. It requires a quality work mindset. This is also why if you've ever asked me "Crap, can I do that rep again?" Absolutely not. If you always get to begin again then what is the point of the work being done at all? Even on your hardest days, when will power is in the tank and you'd rather stay home, you show up to the bar (or the mats) and give yourself as much quality repetition and effort as you can. Those moments will always give you honest feedback.
Instead of beginning again and again simply stay the course. Do better. And don't do it for me. Not for society, either. Do better for you. Do better for the sweet satisfaction of mastering that task for the day. Do better for the love of striving to be better.
"More is not better. Only better is better"
As I was out walking the pup before my bench session a client asked me a question about my squat form. As a side note, I was glad they asked because every time a client asks me something it allows me to have a teaching moment both for myself and for them. Moments like these are helpful because we don't always look at small nuances in our own training. Fresh eyes are welcomed, as are questions.
It made me think of a time I asked about a woman I saw on Instagram doing a log press. After noting the weight lifted I asked, "Is that good?" to which my coach responded, "For her it may be." Her answer switched my thoughts from me comparing myself to this person I do not know to me looking internally and observing my own path.
What she meant by "for her it may be" is it's all relative to the athlete. When we watch people on social media we don't know the following:
Something you love doing causing you pain. Another reason I am starting to focus more on lifting is because my left hip hurts all the time. Just non-stop chronic pain and tightness. As I sit here writing this after an open mat, where I only went 40%, I can feel my left hip start to tighten and throb. Mentally, this makes me protect myself when I roll so I can't go as hard as I would like to go, even if going hard is only 60%. That takes a toll on the old brain meats.
This makes me feel defeated, but it also makes me problem solve. I would like to compete again the second half of this year. This means my training has to change. Cheers to solving my hips problems. Yay, mid-30's, yaaaaaaayyyy.
I've been trying for the life of me to figure out why anxiety is a little higher than normal. Or why I want to hide. Take a week off of work.
Training and owning a gym is a HIGHLY social job, so every time I talk on the phone, hang out, go out, etc, and it involves other people, I am drained beyond belief.
So if you ask to hang out and I say no, yea, it's you. Not you the person. Just you. A person. And me, having to interact with you. Be around you. A person. It has nothing to do with me loving you, or caring about you. If you're in my life I probably care deeply for you.
If you think this is a mean thing to think or say or write. Don't care. I'm sure you've thought or said or have written something similar at one point in your life. And I respect that. Because sometimes you need to be you. And all the you's need personal space the way I need personal space. And that's pretty frickin cool.
So what am I doing this Easter weekend? Not hanging out with you. ;)
Also known as emotional intelligence, emotional literacy simply means you can communicate your emotional state and feelings. We all know your communication skills improve if your vocabulary is constantly growing. You will successfully recognize emotions in others and within yourself if you know a variety of emotions. Good emotional literacy means you know anywhere from 25-35 words, and average is close to 20 words.
So lets do a little challenge, shall we? How many emotions do you actually know? List them in the comments, and don't peek at other answers!
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