A major goal of mine, especially for women of all ages, is to get them away from that damn scale. The only thing I want them to scale is their performance in their current activity. I don't care if it's sports, music, or art. In the gym we focus on strength. On the mats we focus on technique. Unless you are training for an event that asks you to be a specific weight, who gives a flying hoot about how much you weigh. On top of that, no one under the age of 18 should be worried about trying to hit a weight class. All you do is make a kid feel bad for growing. When kids feel shame for something they can't control they develop habits that can be unhealthy.
Be strong. Be technical. Be great.
Choosing what to say and how to say it takes practice, so you can't hide behind the fear of saying the wrong thing. You will mess up. You aren't perfect. That is why we practice, and hone this craft that many take for granted. Communication has always been the gateway. The key has always been listening. But that's for another mini.
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
Some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
You say: Are you sure you don't want a secure job with benefits?
I hear: I want the security of a job with benefits, and I wouldn't take that risk.
You say: When are you having children?
I hear: Goodbye freedom.
You say: When are you getting married?
I hear: Goodbye autonomy.
You say: Once you have kids you'll change your mind and be pro-life (aka anti-choice).
I hear: As a woman talking to another woman, your choices do not matter once you have children.
You say: Maybe you shouldn't wear something so low cut/tight/short.
I hear: Your body doesn't belong to you.
When they asked questions about my choices, this triggered my most primal fear of not belonging."
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