Anyways, she was telling me one of her kids has a stutter, and this isn't as uncommon as people may think. Another close friend of mine has a child that has a stutter, as well. If I remember correctly I had a stutter as a child, and then it went away only to reappear at 22 with a vengeance and a desire to destroy my emotional well-being by embarrassing me with a variety of words. B, D, and P words followed by a longer vowel sound. Even jiu jitsu is hard for me to say. Oh my gawds, JESSICA is hard to say.
"M'am, may I get your first and last name?"
"Sure, Juh-Jessica Sunier."
"I'm sorry? Can you repeat that?"
People may not notice it as much because over the last 11 years my adult brain found a way around it. I simply choose different words that mean the same but are easier for me to say. This took a lot of practice at first, but eventually it started to flow.
Stuttering primarily occurs when there is a lot of energy. Excitement. Panic. Anxiety. It doesn't matter. If it's not a calm energy then words become more difficult. Why? From what I understand when that anxious energy starts my brain releases dopamine to calm me back down. That dopamine collects in the frontal lobe where your speech centers are located, and we develop a blockage. That blockage can usually develop into a headache. I know that my worst stutter instances have occurred with a headache as its companion.
Here is what not to tell someone who has a stutter:
These are only some strategies that have helped me. If any of these work with you or your kids then that is all I can ask for, honestly. Lets be real, people can be really shitty toward one another. Discovering ways to communicate more effectively helps our entire race in the long run.
Thoughts on Vacation Coffee
The world is brighter, the moments sweeter, and the coffee bolder while on vacation. Vacation coffee is the slowness of the morning before the world wakes up. It is the smell of your favorite roast and the rustling of crisp pages turning in a book.